What to do when a friend bails on youLearn how to deal with a flaky friend
People have experienced the feeling at least once or twice; you and a friend are planning to hang out over the weekend when suddenly, your friend bails at the last minute. What do you do now?
Some might think the person who cancelled is not worth their time or friendship anymore while others believe there is a way to work around the flakiness. Here are ways people deal with friends who ditch at the last minute:
Be the lone rider: Since the plans were already made, why not go through with them on your own, especially if the event was already paid for. Just because the other person bailed does not mean you can’t enjoy a good time by yourself. You might as well take advantage of the time, particularly if you do not have a ride back home right away. However, if you’re already home, then you now have the whole night to yourself to do whatever you please.
“If someone is meeting me at my house then it doesn’t really matter to me because at least I’ll already be home, but if I’m supposed to meet someone at some place and they don’t show up, I’d still continue through with my plans on my own,” sophomore Estefania Cabral said. “I wouldn’t let it ruin my night.”
Invite other people instead: So, one person cancelled on short notice. You can still ask other friends to meet up if you don’t want to fly solo. Or, you could even ask a relative to meet up and spend time with you.
“If my friend couldn’t make it, I would find another activity to do with my other friends instead,” freshman Nina Preradovic said. “I usually know at least two people that are free so I would go hang out with them.”
Forgive and forget: Sometimes people have hectic schedules that interfere with spending time with others. If your friend can’t make it, then reschedule another time to hang out together. However, if your friend is constantly bailing and canceling on you, then it might be time to rethink the friendship.
“I wouldn’t mind if my friend couldn’t make it, just as long as they have a legitimate reason,” junior Jennifer Nguyen said. “I’m usually the forgiving type so of course I would be willing to try again to make plans with them.”
The next time you make plans with your friends, think about who is it you are inviting and what the outcome may be. Knowing the type of friend they are, you can work around the drama and avoid the flakiness when you invite people to events.