On a journey of self acceptance: Meet Amanda Moncilovich Transitioning from male to female

Smiling for a photo, junior Amanda Moncilovich proudly shows off the transgender flag. “I am very open about my journey,” Moncilovich said. “I don’t mind if the word is spread.” Photo Credit: Amanda Moncilovich

As she applies a thin layer of lipstick and brushes on eyeshadow, junior Amanda Moncilovich feels complete. It’s the first day of school and the first day she will present herself as a female. She nervously slips on her heels and heads out the door.

Born into a boy’s body, junior Amanda Moncilovich grew up conforming into male roles, wearing suits and ties and presenting herself as a boy. 

“About three years ago, I wanted to be a girl but it went away for a few years,” Moncilovich said. “Looking back, I now realize that was a hint that I was not cisgender. This is my first year presenting myself as Amanda, wearing dresses and high heels.”

She first told her mother, which was easy for her, because her parents were completely accepting of her decision. Before coming out, her parents always told her they would love her no matter what decisions she made.

“We could see how Amanda’s transition was making her so much happier and relieving her stress levels,” Moncilovich’s parents said. “It took some time getting used to, but we know now that this is who she is and we support her.”

When summer ended and school began, Moncilovich had no choice but to tell her classmates. When she told her friends, they were accepting of her decision. 

“When I came out to my friends it was a weight off my shoulder,” Moncilovich said. “They all agreed to go with it. Even my girlfriend was okay with us still dating even though I’m now a girl.”

To start her official transition, Moncilovich first met with a psycologist. Because she is under 18, she was prescribed puberty blockers.

“When you go to get psychological therapy, they will recommend what you need to transition,” Moncilovich said. “When I turn 18, I can look into hormone replacement surgery. But if I want to get my gender changed on my birth certificate, I would need to get sex reassignment surgery.” 

Although her name isn’t legally changed to Amanda, she has changed her name at school. After having a meeting with her parents, Assistant Principal Trish Taylor, facilitator Marc Kenwood and counselor Janelle Kelly, they agreed that she met the criteria outline by CCSD to allow for a name change within the school district database.

“It feels awesome knowing the fact that people can see me as Amanda, especially because I know it will be in the yearbook,” Moncilovich said.

With the recent transition, Moncilovich has had to make changes to her daily routines to adjust to life as a female. 

“The biggest difference is that now I am growing out my hair and it takes me about ten minutes to tame it and I always apply makeup,” Moncilovich said. “My parents have noticed that I’m a lot happier and my therapist has helped me a lot.”

Moncilovich hopes that she can spread awareness to others about the transgender community and continue her journey.

“For people who are less fortunate than I am, whether they’re dealing with transphobia or homophobia or whether they’re transitioning from male to female or female to male, it will get better,” Moncilovich said. “Everybody is human. Trans rights are human rights.”