Seeing your exes being with someone else can be hard, but having them out of your life completely is even more difficult. Photo Credit: Jacob Berroya
There you are, sitting all alone with no one to talk to a week after you have broken up with your significant other. The time and effort that you have spent with your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend is down the drain and you are now faced with the real world again. What will you do?
You have two options, either suck it up and continue on with your life, or attempt to keep that person in your life. Nevertheless, neither of these paths are easily accomplished.
Breakups are some of the hardest situations to deal with. Not only are you single again, but you now have to fill the empty void with different people and unimportant objects that only provide you with temporary happiness so that your ex will be the last person in your mind.
Whether they are just your acquaintance or your best friend, you can never seem to keep that person in your life. There can be constant frustration between you and your ex because of the recurring thought that there could be something more between you two.
There is no possible way you can keep your former significant other in your life without having complications such as jealousy and regret. Either you feel as if you want the person back, or you are frustrated that you let yourself lose someone that you still have feelings strong feelings for.
My recent separation with my ex-girlfriend was rough. Not only did we split, but we split in a way where everyone knew in a matter of seconds on every single social network. The last few days of our relationship were filled with tears, anger, and regrets. Although our separation was not on even ground, we attempted to be in each other’s lives by being close friends. Sadly, it did not turn out the way I wanted it to. Just like before, it resulted in arguing.
Though you might want that person in your life more than anything in the world, all the crying, arguing, and misguided feelings are not worth your precious time and effort. You will be better off with forgetting about your ex until the time is right for you two to be friends again. This way, the pain will only last for a brief period of time.
There are the select few that can maintain a friendship with their ex-partners without going absolutely bonkers, but in all honesty, most teens are too emotionally unstable to keep their feelings and thoughts to themselves. In my personal opinion, the easiest way to be happy after a relationship is to forgive and forget, then move on with your life. Sure, I might sound heartless right now, but just have a little faith and trust in yourself. Leave them behind and set your priorities straight. You only have one life to live, so why spend it crying over some person that is now part of your past?